After I wrote about how low-esteem is tied to work stress last time, I had a number of people in my professional network who reached out and said that they had been suffering from a long-term self-esteem problem. They had known about it for a while now, but found it hard to shake that insecurity away, especially in their work. 

And sadly, most of these feedbacks came from female professionals I know, who are excellent at their work, both in quality and determination. Everyone could see it, except themselves. 

Some call it the "Confidence Gap", some call it the "Imposter Syndrome". Whatever it is called, it's leeching on us and not making us better!

One of the female journalists I admire is Katty Kay from the BBC and she wrote in this heartfelt and honest article that she, the anchor of BBC America, a successful and professional journalist, also once felt like a fraud. 

She said: "Closing the confidence gap means being honest about your abilities, not constantly undervaluing them". 

Maybe it's something that comes with age but if there's one thing I can say to my 23-year-old self, it is this: 

Cut yourself some slack. Stop the overthinking and perfectionism and be proud of what you have achieved.

To all the 20-something-year-olds, there will be dozens of people who will NOT be proud of you, who will NOT give you that pat on the shoulders and who will not validate you constantly. So you need to do that yourself. 

Think about it: you've got a job, you've got that degree, you've got those friends and networks. Someone saw something in you, so believe it! 

Try your best, and be confident of who you are: all your flaws and shortcomings and all. You will grow if you allow yourselves to.